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The Art of Gay Style's avatar

Fabrice, this is such a thoughtful, necessary piece. I felt deep resonance with your call to move beyond performance politics and return to grounded presence, community care, and internal alignment. I wrote something similar several hours before this was published—perhaps the collective field is tuning us to the same frequency 😎⭐

My own post https://theartofgaystyle.substack.com/p/were-building-the-lgbtq-penthouse explored how I transitioned long before social media, before hashtags and politicized identity. There were no slogans. Just alignment. I didn’t transition to become visible—I transitioned to become me. And maybe, in this strange paradox of history, we’re being offered the same invitation again: to show up, fully and quietly powerful, not to be celebrated as remarkable, but to be recognized as integral.

After reading the comments here, I completely understand that for some, talk of “building differently” can sound like a retreat or reductionism. I want to be clear: that is not what I’m calling for. Certainly not from my perspective. This isn’t about shrinking, silencing, or submission. It’s also not a criticism of anyone else’s path. I’m not here to tell anyone what to do—truly, it’s none of my business. Everyone will follow the route that calls to them.

For me, it’s simply this: we don’t always have to be adversarial. Pride can be presence. Sometimes the most powerful act of revolution—if you want to call it that—is simply building something so whole and so luminous that the old paradigms disintegrate by comparison.

And this is where I echo something you’ve said in the past: we must stop outsourcing our resilience. We are astonishingly creative beings. We can support ourselves. We can stop performing for institutional favor or corporate applause. This isn’t about giving up the “fight”—but it is about recognizing that the language of fights and battlegrounds psychologically locks the world into a “them vs. us” energy model that no longer serves. If you consider the effects of a law of assumption, law of attraction, even quantum physics into all of this, it simply means that we keep perpetuating the same push and pull, the one that we've seen playing out over millennia. For me, it’s about choosing which plane of reality I choose to build from. The 3D of survival. The 4D of duality. Or the 5D—blueprint, essence, expansion.

That’s the frequency I hold. And everyone else is of course welcome to hold whatever frequency they choose. The world isn’t broken. It’s evolving. And I’m not here to fix it. It doesn't need fixing the whole point of these dynamics is to create further expansion of the whole cosmos. Many people don't see that. And I respect that. I’m here—perhaps—as a kind of broadcasting soul. One beacon among many.

To anyone navigating this moment: my work is about refining. Not in shadows, not in shame—but with clarity, beauty, and soul-level courage. Visibility matters—but not when it becomes spectacle. Sometimes the truest visibility is being seen simply for existing. And that is enough.

Sometimes the loudest act of defiance—if defiance is even the word—is creating beauty where they said it couldn’t grow.

Wishing everyone here—wherever you are on this spiral of becoming—peace, clarity, and agency in whichever path you walk. We all matter. We all count. And I mean everyone.⭐😎🙏

🖤

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Fabrice Houdart's avatar

I love this. Thank you for your message.

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Noel Thorpe's avatar

I think we have always been marginalized and scape goated

As to the left left we were hijacked and gay people fell for it hook line and sinker.

Pull back from that or other wise we will fall deeper.

This is world wide.

It is swinging the other way now so stand still.

Don't be in hurry to fall for that as we'll.

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MartianGirl's avatar

Hey lol I also didn’t read the whole article which I will do now since my WiFi came back and scroll on data was 💩 but I still stand by what I wrote.

I’ve seen this happening a lot lately. It scares me honestly. Again love 🧡 and hugs 🤗 I’ll finish it now 🫣

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MartianGirl's avatar

I don’t agree with the premise of the article. I did but I’ve seen through watching protests and small towns stand up for there LGBTQIA+ community members, against a minority of people who currently are in control.

Reductionism is just as bad as capitulation. The current minority of dems is jumping on this wagon but it’s another bubble.

We always knew that some were and do perform as allies but if this were true that most do and the entirety of 300+ Americans were out to end our existence, then we would be losing far faster and were simply not.

To be blunt the right has won on the Mekong you think we all suck meter.

Btw I did like the article. But this is not a strategy that ever works. Communication and community is building that takes work. Living isn’t never about self silencing that a closet, which I’m not putting myself beck into. No should and I fully understand it’s not that easy for many.

This a set back not a retreat. Civil rights took a long time and a lot of work.

We are survivors don’t give in advance. The margin was so small and one election never means nothing was achieve.

But pulling says you were wrong and the hat was right.

It’s hard, stand up in their faces anyway. We need to help others get us by being us. Loud and proud 💯

Love 🧡 and Hugs 🤗

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